Choices in Life
Life through its various twists and turns brings to us many situations that leave us perplexed, stupefied, mortified, petrified. We are helpless when we are at the crossroads. We have to take a decision and we don't know whether the choices we make are going to be right. When I say right, I don't mean whether they are according to a set of principles also called as Dharma. What we understand by right choices is that the choice must bring a result that is acceptable to us. For instance, the path I choose should not leave me in a place where I am more stuck... this is what we want. And so, in our desperation to make the right choice, we spend sleepless nights. A father loses sleep over which school he must get his child into. A teenage boy worries over the kind of hairdo he sports. In life, we see many such instances where we see people fret, fume about nothing.
When we look deeper into the issue, we see that we are fundamentally insecure about the future. We simply don't know for certain how longer we are going to live. That's the greatest uncertainty of our lives. But somehow, for some strange reason we are not worried about it because we know that after death we have nothing left. That's not the case with something like losing a job. "What will I do then? So my actions today should not in any way jeopardise my job". May be a bad example, I couldn't think of anything better. The point is, the insecure feeling I have translates itself into a lack of freedom in making decisions. We are left with limited options. And when the options available are not satisfactory, we cry, we suffer.
Think about it this way. What would I do if I knew that my future is going to be safe. We would have a greater freedom in making certain choices. For example, if I am a father who has promised my son to take him out to the beach in the evening. My boss at the office asks me to finish a job which will take a long time. If I knew that saying no to my boss will not affect my relations with him, I would find the freedom to say no. But the catch is, I don't know. So I am insecure and I leave my child disappointed and I go back at night to see a sad face. I try to explain my predicament to the kid. I expect that child to understand me when I being an adult couldn't understand him.
So there is insecurity which makes us choose what we don't want, and we don't have the courage to listen to our heart. We are ruining our peace.
In Matrix, Morphius says that we have already made the choices, we only have to realise why we made that choice. And the choice we make is the one the heart wants. If the heart wants destruction, let it have it. If it wants failure, let it have it. If it wants success, let it have it.
But the biggest task for us is to listen to our heart. And not to get confused by the thousands of noises that run within our head!!
When we look deeper into the issue, we see that we are fundamentally insecure about the future. We simply don't know for certain how longer we are going to live. That's the greatest uncertainty of our lives. But somehow, for some strange reason we are not worried about it because we know that after death we have nothing left. That's not the case with something like losing a job. "What will I do then? So my actions today should not in any way jeopardise my job". May be a bad example, I couldn't think of anything better. The point is, the insecure feeling I have translates itself into a lack of freedom in making decisions. We are left with limited options. And when the options available are not satisfactory, we cry, we suffer.
Think about it this way. What would I do if I knew that my future is going to be safe. We would have a greater freedom in making certain choices. For example, if I am a father who has promised my son to take him out to the beach in the evening. My boss at the office asks me to finish a job which will take a long time. If I knew that saying no to my boss will not affect my relations with him, I would find the freedom to say no. But the catch is, I don't know. So I am insecure and I leave my child disappointed and I go back at night to see a sad face. I try to explain my predicament to the kid. I expect that child to understand me when I being an adult couldn't understand him.
So there is insecurity which makes us choose what we don't want, and we don't have the courage to listen to our heart. We are ruining our peace.
In Matrix, Morphius says that we have already made the choices, we only have to realise why we made that choice. And the choice we make is the one the heart wants. If the heart wants destruction, let it have it. If it wants failure, let it have it. If it wants success, let it have it.
But the biggest task for us is to listen to our heart. And not to get confused by the thousands of noises that run within our head!!
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